Warning, parents: your children will drive you crazy. This is normal and should be expected. What you need to remember is the behaviors that annoy you the most are at times the very ones you (or the other parent in the equation) exhibited when younger. Genealogy is a funny thing, and it is uncanny how our children are able to intuitively zero in on those behaviors that most readily bring out the worst in us, their parents.
There is good news. When it comes to our children’s behavior, we usually have a distorted view. We regularly get a “false negatives.” This means we typically see the worst our children have to offer because they don’t usually sensor behaviors around us, their parents. Fear not, children easily ‘code-switch’ and often behave much differently around others. In fact, I believe our children’s interactions with individuals outside the family unit give us the best indication of how they will function as adults in the real world.
So, be patient. When we were younger, it took us awhile to figure things out behaviorally. The same will hold true for our children. Knowing this information is important if for no other reason than in helping us gain some perspective, which may be the very thing that keeps us from snapping when crazy behaviors come a callin’.